At Home With Help from a Funeral Director
Although some would like to participate in the after-death care of a loved one, they do not want to do everything themselves. Here are some helpful questions to ask your local funeral director in the event that you would like to be in charge of the process, but pay them for individual services.
>> Helpful Questions
1 Have you ever worked with a family who served as its own funeral director?
If not, would you consider working with us on a per hour basis for a very limited number of services?
2 Would you be willing simply to file the paperwork on our behalf?
If so, how much would you charge for doing that?
3 Would you provide an immediate burial or direct cremation for my loved one?
Would you provide an immediate burial or direct cremation for my loved one after our family has cared for him or her at home for up to three days after death?
4 Would you be willing to only charge us for specific services?
Because we only need assistance with X and Y, which does not call upon all the functions bundled into your basic services fee, would you just charge us for specific services? If so, how much would you charge?
5 Would you be willing to be involved on an as-needed basis?
Even though we expect to handle all of the arrangements on our own, there may be unforeseen circumstances that arise. Would you be willing to be involved on an as-needed basis (e.g., if we found we couldn’t remove Mom’s wedding band, and we knew you had the right tools to cut it free from her hand). If so, how would you charge for this?
6 Can we buy merchandise from you if we aren't using your funeral home?
If we wanted to order merchandise (e.g., a cremation container), but the supplier is a wholesaler and won’t sell to a family directly, could we buy it through you if we were not using your funeral home for anything else?